Just seeing how he is with my husband (and yes, he still has a long way to go, but), we can't 'give him up.' I've always frowned upon ppl who give up animals (unless there's a CRAZY unforeseen circumstance that absolutely necessitates it).... I love him, even if he hates me and it breaks my heart. But I am VERY worried that this may not change and that he'll be miserable living with me (and then I'll be miserable too). He'll be forced to be with me all the time... That's not a happy life, if he always dislikes me. THAT is what makes me worry if this is going to work. I want him to love me... I want him to be genuinely happy when he's with me. Plus obviously, I cannot deal with being attacked for the rest of his life... I can't handle that. I would never feel ok leaving him in his cage and him being "my husband's bird"......
So far so good this morning. I'm going REALLY slow with him, he's on the counter and we're eating and I gave him a box to peek in, he shredded a little paper, keeping hands slow and out of sight. Letting him come up on me when he begs.
My knuckle was peaking out of my sleeve and he found it and started to get pretty rough.... A little 'irritated,' but didn't full-on broken-skin bite, maybe because I redirected... I kept saying "easy bud" like my husband says... Then moved my arm so he would get off. Would you consider this "biting behaviour?" Or no? What would you all do in this case?
He keeps going for where my hands are up my sleeve and getting really rough. And if I offer that part of my arm for him to get up on, he bites it. Sometimes if he get on on my forearm, he will go straight down there to bite.
Today I'm trying to start fresh. Again, like every day.... The last two days I've ended up a mess, mentally by the end of the day.
What my husband finds weird is that he does notice when I leave (when he's with my husband), he will chirp. And get really interested when I come back. But I think that's normal, and he'd do that with anybody likely
Thoughts?
Also, he often will give me his back when I have him on the T perch... I'm taking this to mean 'not a fan of you, not interested, I'd rather not be with you.' Is this the sort of idea? He gets fluffed up and hunched over, back to me.
Two more questions about behaviour:
Constant soft squawks when he's slightly fluffed up - ?
Random "CHIRP-CHIRP" when I'm singing or talking to him - like the chirp he could do over and over and louder if he was calling us. Does this mean "stop" or "I like it?"
....I don't understand why he dislikes me so much.
I was reading a bunch on the forum (as always), is it true that if a bird was a "one-person-bird" in the past (as in, attached to one person and didn't like/trust anyone - which was apparently the case with Quigley) that they need to learn that they can have their special person, but still be able to trust other people as well? Is it simply that I am "other?" And therefore he doesn't trust me because he already gave that trust to my husband?
Or just that he doesn't like me.